Loving Yourself: What We Got Wrong
This is for everyone who has heard over and over again that they should “be comfortable in their own skin” then tried to change their mindset, then failed, and still haven’t been able to figure it out.
Here’s the secret...
Being comfortable in your own skin isn’t a mindset, it’s figuring out what you need to do to love yourself, then doing it, unapologetically.
For instance? A full face of makeup makes me feel good about myself. But hair? I can have my hair in a messy (i mean messy) bun and as long as I have makeup on, I feel great. In fact, a messy bun makes me feel incredibly comfortable in my own skin. If I stopped wearing makeup and got my hair done and always wore it down, because I thought it’s what I should do and what everyone else is doing, I would still feel bad about myself because I wasn't doing what worked for me. So, I’ve learned that if I want to feel comfortable in my own skin, I put a little makeup on. Figure out what your thing is and don't ever feel bad about doing it.
I can’t think myself into feeling good about myself, and chances are, you can’t either. I’m comfortable in my own skin because my parents taught me to love myself for who I am and do the things that make me better. I write because it fills my soul, run because it helps me feel God, and paint because it allows me to see beauty. Loving yourself is an action. Take care of you, find out what makes you feel like a rockstar, and don’t put yourself on the back burner.. When you do things that make you feel good about yourself, whether it’s exercising or volunteering or sitting on a porch swing or getting your hair and nails done, being comfortable in your own skin becomes a whole lot easier.
What are three things that make you most comfortable being you?