How to Take Care of You (without feeling selfish)
Our brains never shut off and every thought is tied to an emotion. You know the emotion most of my wires connect back to? Guilt. Not good enough. Imperfection. So striving and working and earning our place here in this world replaces enjoying our homes, friends, and family.
My brain tells me that my value is based on what I can do for others. My heart tells me that the love I receive is equal to my usefulness as a friend. And you know what? It’s a lie. My value is not based on my ability to provide others with joy, though I believe that it is with every fiber of my being. Because my friends love me for my personality and wit, my fiance loves me for my heart and brain and who I am.
These people love me just because I exist. And the people in your life? They love you, just because you exist, not because of what you have to offer. They want you to be happy with every fiber of their being. Hang up the thought that you can’t take a bath or drink a cup of coffee at their expense.
Spend a few minutes taking care of you, whatever it takes. Then go love your people big, with a fresh perspective and a full heart.